What exactly is the issue you're experiencing? Are you stuck searching for the Refuge, or is there another issue?

ok i made my character and then when i get to the ship it says that i require the ANY-KEY and i dont know what that is

i dont have the any key but there was a mod i had that kept me from rebooting the ship

the any key is an item you find in your ship locker if you use madtulip's spaceship mod

There's no item in the Elithian Raced Mod called "ANY-KEY", so this might be related to another mod. As for finding Zaheed, you'll need to find a teleporter that can take you to the Starfarer's Refuge (these teleporters are found in any large Avikan settlement). The Watcher's Offices Pass required to open the door to Zaheed's office is found in your shiplocker.