its relatively a dead group unfortunately.

They're not friend collectors, they're basically human bots at this point.

Also, roughly 95% of the people in this group have a damaged mentality about expectations, the image & idealization of what they're actually looking for, and a good portion don't even know what they're really looking.

It's kinda like looking for a life-long lover in a strip club. You're just not going to find what you're looking for, nor is what most people look for realistic- Not for the standards they hold themselves to in relevance to the standards they demand.

And since there's practically only socially dysfunctional people in here, it's hard to find a good friend to have around because if you're both poor at communicating you can't really get that far.

That's just generalizing and poorly trying to summarize what's going on in this group though, so take what i say lightly- they're not absolutes.

引用自 Glass Flamingo：

They're not friend collectors, they're basically human bots at this point.

Also, roughly 95% of the people in this group have a damaged mentality about expectations, the image & idealization of what they're actually looking for, and a good portion don't even know what they're really looking.

It's kinda like looking for a life-long lover in a strip club. You're just not going to find what you're looking for, nor is what most people look for realistic- Not for the standards they hold themselves to in relevance to the standards they demand.

And since there's practically only socially dysfunctional people in here, it's hard to find a good friend to have around because if you're both poor at communicating you can't really get that far.

That's just generalizing and poorly trying to summarize what's going on in this group though, so take what i say lightly- they're not absolutes.

I found a few decent people here but still a few. they probably were new or just were mostly observing. and looking at common comments like "fav 4 fav", "comment for comment" I agree

edit: looks like no one even wants to deny it

引用自 Riedy：

Well, most of the threads are made by mean people looking for a fight or attention.

To me, Steam is not a social media. I have 1100 friends slots and I like to fill them with people I have stuff in common. I'm always active on my activity feed, commenting posts, liking screenshots and just chatting up people. This is a gaming website, not the Gamer's Social Club.

aren't you using it as a social media? all activities you described seem like something one do on social medias.

Pretty much that ^

It is a gaming platform (not a website) and it does have features familiar to facebook in the activity feed. You could in fact treat it as a gamer's social club and technically, you are.

Just to suffer.

This turned kind of "deep" pretty fast.
I must agree to the autor to a point, despite the group being just a little dead, I'm sure you can still find a few friends with common interest, or maybe you have too high of expectation of what you're looking for, as some have said, this is pretty much gamer's social network, nothing more.

"Steam is not a social media" is such a terrible example of trying to prove your point. They're are people here and their are ways to interact with said people even if the main selling point is to BUY GAMES. Honestly your best bet would to give up on people on here because finding a good friend or two here is like winning the lottery in reality, depending on your actions, you either spent a FUCK LOAD of money and got lucky or you just got lucky

Spending money on friends in 2018. Always a good way to get the genuine crowd.

The most interesting stuff I found in these groups is that usually the short bound "add me" comments get the most adds while when you actually try and write a semi long post about what you are searching, maybe imply how you are a little and stuff that either gets ignored totally or at best it actually gets deleted. Like seriously I had so much groups in steam back in the day when I used to post this stuff myself. I always tried to stray from this non personal little messages and tried to give the strangers at least a little metaphoric picture of me so they know if they really wanna add or not but usually my post just got deleted with no reasoning whatsoever.

It literally is like either you dont care and post shit or you care and get deleted.

Whats really funny tho out of my own personal expirience is that for whatever reason through the... dunno like 4 or 5 years I am on steam now something drastically changed. Back then I didnt care who added me as long as we maintained conversations, had stuff in common etc.

But nowadays I actually have my own kind of judgement when someone adds me. I do look for their profile, for their steam level, for some comments yadda yadda. Like I am looking for some kind of reputation. Or stuff like "oi I myself spent shit tons in steam I wanna have someone who does this shit too? "

I mean dont get me wrong I do know how damn stupid that is, but I cant turn it off.

I myself am a person who would like to finde close friends even tho I know the reality of what steam really is. Maybe its some thing that people just like to cling onto in order to avoid the truth that 95% of the people here do. not. fucking. care.

And like the creator of this discussion mentioned already, it's always the same people who repeat themselves in a cycle of not even full 5 hours in these comments. And the thing with them is exactly these people are the ones who 99% not even accept the people who add them and if they accept, they wait for them to engage a conversation otherwise they just delete them again. And if a conversation occurs its just as you guys stated they are so blinded by their own standards and expectations that you don't stand a chance of actually being interesting to them anyways.

But how are you supposed to? Because usually you gotta fight yourself through the sh't ton of the peoples problems and self pity and get your arguments, or actual help or interest blocked out just to MAYBE in the end when the person is done with their self pity waves, have a chance to actually get a normal topic going.

God sorry for that giant post. I think I am a little butthurt here. xD

The people who tend to write longer paragraphs about themselves looking for friends are usually worse than the ''add me'' people because they copypasta their long texts all the time.
Unfortunately the genuine ones suffer from it.

Your third paragraph about looking for 'status', what i think you mean to say is that you have a set standard. It's like being an adventurer trying to be friends with a guy in a wheelchair. You can't really drag him along on your day-long hiking adventures. There is nothing wrong with the way you look for friends. To have no standards for who you want to befriend is dangerous and unhealthy, and also costly. I'm guessing that you assume a moral wrong by denying somebody friendship because ''you're not my type'' or ''you dont have X''.

I dont know about the middle part cuz i dont really add anybody, but it's credible enough to be true, and the rest of what you said is more or less to a degree true as well. If it's not having to do the mental gymnastics of getting past their self pity and what not, it's about getting past their facade of ''everything is happy yay lets huggles ^w^'' and a bunch of empty attempts at trying to poorly communicate.

I would dare say that this place resembles a modified mental asylum of sorts. A place for mentally struggling people who are lost attempting to communicate with each other to find closure.

You have a point here I never thought about copy pasta long texts. I mean when I wrote a text like that back then I did copy pasta it ONCE in different groups but not multiple times in the same one no matter how much times has passed. But I guess you are still totally right with that argument on that.

Thanks for that metaphor it really helped puzzling this picture together and yeah I am glad I could see a different perspective on that matter not just my own.

And yeah I totally forgot these overly hyped happy persons who hug and kiss you after the first 2 minutes of saying hey lol
But tbh its the same sh't for me and almost as annoying as the other stuff.

I couldnt agree more to your last words tho. Maybe thats why I had the feeling and want to go out of my way and actually participate and post in a discussion lol.
It feels like a little save haven of some sorts.

in short kind gamers sucks

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