you need a good relation with the lords, and i guess negative relations with any of there family members and such also play a factor

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SirJustin Just now
@Chuck_Tesla Likely so, even if you have. You are still seen as a pretender, and not fit to rules as your right to rule is too low. However your honor is positive and that should be more than enough. I did ok with 20 honour alone. One solution is to send out your companions with their I want to be a king quests, making sure to only choose ones you will follow. However... I don't know if that is possible anymore once you are a King, I haven't tried.

Chuck_Tesla 12 hours ago
@SirJustin I think that's the problem, I only have 54 honor and about 15 right to rule. But I have destroyed the entire Sarranid Kingdom and about 1/4-1/2 of the Kerghit's Kingdom.

SirJustin 13 hours ago
@Chuck_Tesla Seem to get plenty myself. Actually I have about 3/4 of them. Is your right to rule low? Or even your honour by chance?
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Just to move this here.

Also to add. One way I got my last right to rule 80-99, was when I made peace with places after taking things. I tend to get 3 hits of right to rule.. it's something to think of as well.

right to rule is key