ive also been having this problem. the pawns on the date also don't show up in the caravan forming menu so I can't force them to leave and come back. The only way to fix it I've found is to open dev mode and use it to injure their legs to they get downed. then use heal command to fix them up. it is kinda a pain tho. you have to do it to both pawns or one will just continue the date on their own forever lol