focus on my own life, my own dreams and priorities. family existing is not a reason for me to not achieve my goals.

i already am. my brother and i both do not speak to our parents any more, but he attempted to maintain a relationship with them for awhile before going fully NC.

sometimes a family is just a bunch of peoples who were thrown together by circumstances and blood. i think making your own family and choosing your loved ones is always the superior choice. if that happens to be the family you are born with, great. but sometimes it is not

in your example i would probably let them initiate first, that often shows whether or not someone is interested in speaking to you or not. if you continuously reach out but its full radio silence from their end, then just stop reaching out.

no, i would not forgive them no matter what. actions have consequences, sometimes those consequences result in the breaking of the relationship. sometimes thats forever and it cannot be fixed.

I'll just get lost.

Oprindeligt skrevet af salamander:

i already am. my brother and i both do not speak to our parents any more, but he attempted to maintain a relationship with them for awhile before going fully NC.

I am sorry you and your brother had to go through whatever toxicity you endured to have to resort to going NC. I feel led to go NC, but the guilt eats me up. I always end up caring more about others than myself.

Oprindeligt skrevet af steveclimber:

focus on my own life, my own dreams and priorities. family existing is not a reason for me to not achieve my goals.

Well said.

Oprindeligt skrevet af Goldias:

I'll just get lost.

I feel like I should do that.

Oprindeligt skrevet af xAlphaStarOmegax:

I feel led to go NC, but the guilt eats me up. I always end up caring more about others than myself.

do what you need to do to ensure your mental and emotional wellbeing is cared for. sometimes this means cutting out someone from our lives, even if we love them.

I have a total of ONE alive family member. So I couldn't give less of a ♥♥♥♥.

Good thing about being half an orphan, I don't have to tolerate idiots just because of DNA.

Oprindeligt skrevet af salamander:

Oprindeligt skrevet af xAlphaStarOmegax:

I feel led to go NC, but the guilt eats me up. I always end up caring more about others than myself.

do what you need to do to ensure your mental and emotional wellbeing is cared for. sometimes this means cutting out someone from our lives, even if we love them.

So true and thank you.

Oprindeligt skrevet af Majinken:

I have a total of ONE alive family member. So I couldn't give less of a ♥♥♥♥.

Good thing about being half an orphan, I don't have to tolerate idiots just because of DNA.

I am glad to hear that you have found a sense of freedom.

mate with the rest of the herd

It doesn't matter how people treat you (to an extent) but how YOU treat people.

Have you ever played a hit video game called "Sven"?



Yeah, that.

But is it a BLM sheep or a normal black sheep?

I am, obviously. But that hardly matters anymore, they are all dead, but I'm not.

And when I'm dead I'll just come back again, like always.

I’m more of a red sheep

hook up with the underground blacksheep society.

Go on a grand adventure to save the kingdom.
edit: Nvm, I'd became a morally ambiguous vagrant who lost their business from a space pirate assault then I would go a grand and goofy adventure to find the galactic leyline with a band of misfit friends.