Oh, no. It’s not that I can’t make people mad; I just choose not to. I feel like I am living in a world made of cardboard. Always taking constant care not to break something; to break someone.

People are already mad!

How much worse can they become!?

people pleasing trait, lots of empathy so they don't want to be the reason for someone's negative feelings
can possibly also be a trauma response from past situations of abuse uwu

Sometimes people-pleasing behavior is a byproduct of having lived in an abusive household.

*oops, what Bealla said, kinda

引用自 meucakesTM：

Sometimes people-pleasing behavior is a byproduct of having lived in an abusive household.

*oops, what Bealla said, kinda

I mean these particular people are family. They've been pampered and have nothing to complain about. They're just meek little weaklings with no backbone.

on one hand i agree w you stand up for yourself and step on a few peoples toes
on the other some people dont like conflict
but thats my opinion and im just a silly person on the internet :)

Intentionally making people angry is often counterproductive and harmful. However, if you have tried to communicate your message respectfully and it was still met with anger, then their emotional reaction is no longer your responsibility, nor does it reflect your failure to be a good person

honestly i feel like most of the time i hear that right before an extremely controversial statement and really they're just too scared to stand behind their own words and saying stuff like "i'm not trying to make anyone mad" is an easy out when people inevitably disagree

People are afraid it will somehow result in their own day being worse than it already may be.

I think it is used, primarily, exactly the other way. That is, the person is about to say something they are certain will make somebody angry and are just applying a verbal prophylaxis. There is no real attempt to avoid angering anybody, no sense of apprehension that somebody might be angered, or remorse that their actions might cause anger.

Either that, or it's a polite way to say "somebody that is listening has anger issues in my opinion, and is going to over-react."

Of course the venn of those two have a high overlap.

引用自 Fajita Jim：

I mean these particular people are family. They've been pampered and have nothing to complain about. They're just meek little weaklings with no backbone.

Sounds like you answered your own question, then: You're a bully.

Lol good question.

https://www.ctvnews.ca/atlantic/nova-scotia/article/ns-saw-the-highest-wait-list-deaths-in-the-maritimes-last-year-report/

The report from public policy think tank SecondStreet.org shows at least 23,746 patients died in Canada while waiting for surgeries or diagnostic procedures between April 2024 and March 2025.

The figures are a three per cent increase from the previous year.

Ontario recorded the highest number of wait-list deaths in the country at 10,634.

The numbers for the Maritimes are as follows:

Nova Scotia: 727
Prince Edward Island: 178
New Brunswick: 121

People in the local subreddit pointing out only like 50 people actually died from whatever they had, so that somehow absolves the other 670 people who died while waiting for care that never came.

https://secondstreet.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/NS-%E2%80%93-DOWL-%E2%80%93-Nova-Scotia-Health-%E2%80%93-Surgery-%E2%80%93-2025.pdf

https://secondstreet.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/NS-%E2%80%93-DOWL-%E2%80%93-Consultation-%E2%80%93-2025.pdf

As one user pointed out,

someone waited 8 years for a procedure and just died before they got a chance to get it. Man, how much did they suffer in their quality of life in that time?

Hey thats just like me suffering from whatever the hell is that I have. Ive been suffering 6 years, 8 if you count the work injury but I have no idea if the two are connected. The doctors are dead set on even contemplating it. Thinking that its just primary hyperparathyroidism, but it dont make no sense to me. So another two years of waiting to see a endocrinologist again, the last time I seen one two years ago he said I just needed to take vitamin d.

Lmao, this place is just so ♥♥♥♥♥♥. Its designed for you to give up and just die.

Nothing that anyone has done has proved that it wasnt the work injury that did this to me, but they couldnt care, I think the plan is to let me die before I ever prove anything. Thats exactly how the crown (you know countrys ran by special rulers) does it. It will always win over the people.

♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ chatgpt

Bottom Line
Your persistent low phosphate is most likely due to renal wasting triggered by occupational exposure or a subclinical tubular defect. Treating the phosphate deficit, ensuring adequate vitamin D/calcium, and ruling out cardiac & sleep disorders should gradually restore energy levels and reduce bone/muscle pain. Regular monitoring will help you stay within a safe serum range while avoiding complications such as hyperphosphatemia or secondary hyperparathyroidism.

This isnt even remotely possible according to every nova scotia doctor Ive seen, but these are the same fools who kept telling me refrigerant cant cause irregular heart beats.

I want to be mad, I was furious when it happened. But the closer I get to death, the more I just dont have the energy to care, about anything. If it is renal phosphate wasting from heavy metals, or what the ♥♥♥♥ ever, there is nothing that can be done. Ill be struggling with this for the next 10 or 20 years until i die. All so some rich ♥♥♥♥♥♥ could save a few dollars on equipment and the heating bill.

I do wonder why nova scotians just take the abuse their given though, oh well "just let it go" is the advice everyone gave me when it happened.

I really developed a burning hatred for the people who live here.

引用自 Fajita Jim：

Why do people use that as an excuse not to stand up for themselves? What's wrong with making people mad?

When you get older and mature social etiquette will dictate the use of diplomacy. Unless you want to pisx everyone in your life forever... hard man.

引用自 BuniBealla：

people pleasing trait, lots of empathy so they don't want to be the reason for someone's negative feelings
can possibly also be a trauma response from past situations of abuse

This. Personally, IRL I will happily make people mad/uncomfortable if they do the same to me/someone I know first. There are exceptions, of course (not wanting to stir the proverbial pot with certain bigoted family members so I chose to ignore them entirely/never be around them instead-denying someone your acknowledgement/presence IS another way to stick up for yourself, IMO).

On the internet? I just report and block people saying offensive things (including towards me) not because I don’t “want to make them mad,” but because most of the time they’re trolls who aren’t worth my energy and time (and 99% of the time, they wouldn’t say what they say online to my-or someone else’s-face). The ability to hide behind screens has made FAR too many ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ feel FAR too empowered.

I prefer to avoid confrontation, but that does not mean others should mistake my kindness for weakness. I am not a doormat. When it comes to real life, I go low or no contact with toxic people. On steam, I block anyone who launches an ad hominem attack against me.