In my opinion, foxhole is the most realistic wargame.

Just because you get to take part in a proper machine, where everything is made by a player, even respawn tickets are made by players. You can slaughter enemy logistics with a few lads, starving off the frontline. Guns, ships, ammunition, trucks, tanks, artillery, trenches, etc. are all made by players, grinding all day to keep one part of one hex of one sector of the frontline alive.

You even have (unofficial) civil wars, when two clans cant agree who gets what. Always fun to watch. Wars last months, kill tens of millions, and dont have any main characters.

What are yours?