In 2025 one does not simply talk to women without being a grape-ist.
Go to church clean and dressed good, meet a clean young woman who is not loose morally or physically. Ask her out and the rest comes natural.

Unless the name of the lady you would like to talk to is "Victoria", this has nothing to do with the overall topic of this forum.

quit anime, be a man

I'll entertain this whilst i'm considering what game to buy.

As a gay man i have the benefit of partly understanding the male heterosexual pov and also the female point of view - both sides talk to me about EveRyThing. Allow me to mediate.

They are no different. And you just need to speak to them as yourself. This stands for any gender or sexuality.

The second you change yourself to fit what you think the other person wants to hear or to engage in, then it's going to go wrong.

Imagine, you set up a persona that "enables" you to talk to women, a woman then begins to date that persona, then moves in with that persona.

The second you leave a dirty sock somewhere, after having the persona of "oh yes i always pick up my dirty clothes and put them in the wash basket (because thats what women want, right?)" then you're not meeting the truth of what you said.

the other cheat code is to use Active Listening (plenty of videos on this, so you can look into it). Short lesson is i say to you "I love cats"

You think to yourself "Wtf do i say to that??? Its not much to go on"

You have options in how you reply - which do You think is going A) going to be ok-ish and B) Best option?

1. I don't
2. What is it about cats you like most?
3. I hurt animals for fun
4. Cats are nice

Now, waiting for your answer is gonna suck for me and you so i'll assume you went with cats are nice is ok-ish and what is is about cats you like most is Best Option.

This starts a loop, known as a conversation... She says some stuff, you then pick out what seems to demonstate to you the most emotion, failing that, just pick on something SHE has said, NOT just go into your life and any exp with cats.

Depending on how self obsessed the person is, depends on how much of your own stuff you 'sprinkle' in there.

So, you've said "what is it about cats you like most?"

"They are fluffy and warm and cute, and they are comforting when they sleep with me"

The Cycle of active listening would now have you pick up on something else to say. But.... you're now panicking - you fear you'll be stuck in a cycle of just asking more and more questions about cats. Here are some options, then i need to shut up as i'll get accused by some child who's caught onto the new word for talking lots - "yapping" - or your attention span is that of someone born after 2000 and i lost you at "They are no different"

A) Just continue asking Qs, then say something side related - Zoos, dogs, whatever.

B) Say "that's really cool/interesting/<youthful comment that expresses interest>" then some sort of other question/ comment/ would you like a drink?

C) A common tool you'll want to use often is simply to Reflect an element of what they said that, again, appears to link to emotions. Not sure if you ever get this but sometimes you just want to moan and complain about something Without Anyone Giving You Answers!! Or you say "I really hate <something>" and someone else comes in with "Why don't you just try <something>" and it continues for ages till you get frustrated and stop.

Here what you, and many people are after is a Reflective comment.
"I really love cats because they make me feel calm"
You say "Cats make you feel calm?"

You've given the other person Permission to go deeper into that reason, and they'll likely be passionate about it. You did ask a question, still about cats, but you basically 'stole' their comment and Reflected it back at them. We often dont hear/absorb what we say out loud till someone Reflects it back.

Best one is "you sound really stressed" or "It sounds like your mum was important to you?"

Goodness, i do yap... sorry. I haven't read through what i wrote - it is likely to be total BS. I wont respond to any rudeness - just move on.

stop touching yourself

Your profile page tells me there's no hope. Best to come up with more attainable goals.